Divorce is unique due to the factors that led to it. Your experience may differ from another’s. This is why it’s crucial to be informed when going through a divorce, and one of the things you need to understand is your spouse. If your marriage involved emotional abuse, the chances are you may experience it during the divorce.
Here are two tips to consider when divorcing an emotionally abusive spouse.
It’s not easy when someone uses shaming language, constantly criticizes you, accuses you of things, refuses to take responsibility for their actions or manipulates your behavior. This can traumatize you.
You should be proud of yourself for taking the step of divorcing such a spouse. But you should be ready for these actions to continue. They can make you question your decision or manipulate you into accepting unfair requests.
Thus, it will be best to get support. Spending time with your loved ones and joining a support group can help you regain confidence. Further, therapy can provide you with tools for dealing with your spouse.
However, while getting support is crucial, pay attention to the people you surround yourself with. Emotional abusers are notorious for letting other people do their job. You don’t want to be around people who enable their behavior.
An emotionally abusive soon-to-be ex-spouse may want to get on your nerves. Therefore, you should reduce interaction. You should only meet in the presence of a neutral third party.
If you have kids, you should have boundaries. And be careful, as your spouse may use different tricks to get a reaction that can work against you.
When divorcing an emotionally abusive partner, you need to learn more about your case to make the right moves.